"Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy."
In today's world with social media constantly buzzing on our phones, iPads, and computers, it can hard to get away from it all. We are constantly surrounded by other peoples thoughts, ideas, and actions that, at times, it can be difficult to separate our own true thoughts from others. Since entering my own nook of the social media world, I have often strived to be authentic. We often seek out what we see in ourselves and in doing so, things can become a little "fuzzy" if you will. Maybe it is just me, chickadees, but if we are being honest, I struggle with this. I often ask myself how I can separate myself from others while still staying true to who I am as a person. As I am getting ready to begin my 200 yoga teacher training, I started to get a jump start on my readings and picked up "When Things Fall Apart" by Pema Chodron. Listen dear pals, I cannot recommend it enough. I find myself highlighting line after line and going back to read them again and again. This is a book that really has pulled the strings of my heart. As I am on my own personal journey to be fearlessly authentic, I thought I would share a few things that I have learned so far:
1. Be Honest With Yourself Being honest with ourselves is not always the easiest thing to do. We often feel uncomfortable when we come face to face with our imperfections and so many times we run away from it all. However it is in the moments of discomfort where we experience self reflection, acceptance, and growth. When you want to run away, don't. Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth. Being honest with ourselves means that we must not overthink things but rather trust our instincts and feelings. If something feels good, seek it out. If it not longer serves you like it once did, be okay with walking away from it and move on. Being honest with yourself means that you think for yourself. Trust your thoughts. You are the one who is walking your journey, not anyone else.
2. Let Go Of Your Own Expectations For so long I had this picture of how my life was supposed to be and whenever my life started to veer a different way, I panicked. I didn't want to admit it at the time, but I thought I had failed. I had lost touch with my own reality by constantly living in this bubble, becoming attached to things that never even existed. In doing so, I didn't appreciate the lessons my life was teaching me at that moment. Once I learned to let go of my own expectations and false realities, I started to live in the moment. It sounds so simple yet so difficult at the same time. Letting go of our own expectations by becoming honest with ourselves allows us to evolve our entire self. It's such a freeing feeling. I say it over and over again but embrace the current season of your life. Accept where you are because eventually you will learn that it is exactly where you were supposed to be. A line that has really stuck with me in Chodron's book is that nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.
3. Let Yourself Be Vulnerable: The beautiful thing about life is that we are always learning and always changing because of the experiences we collect and people we met on our way. Who we are today is not who we will be tomorrow. Finding the courage to be who we are by letting our guard down allows us to find understanding in others and ultimately with ourselves. When we let our guard down and things start to feel shaky, we can either shut down or embrace it. I have typically learned when we feel uncomfortable, we gravitate towards something tangible. If you walk into a room where you know no one, maybe you grab your phone and check social media rather than just embracing the moment and accepting that you feel uncomfortable. Allow yourself to feel vulnerable and accept those feelings as they come. As we become vulnerable, we awaken our souls and become open to what and how we are feeling.
4. Accept Your Thoughts Accept your thoughts and know that they may or may not be the same thoughts that someone else may have. For so long, I felt like I couldn't have the same opinions or like the same things that others did because I didn't want these people to think that I was doing it simply because they were. So dumb, right? It's okay to like the same things as other people and it doesn't make you less of a person. Not accepting your own thoughts is denying who you are as a person. Be confident in who you are and your life will fall into place. Wherever you direct your focus, your energy with follow. When you allow yourself to accept your own thoughts, you will become those thoughts.
The authenticity of our lives is such a wonderful thing, chickadees.
You are beautiful.
You are deserving.
You are worthy.
You are fearlessly authentic.